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OBSTACLES
TO CHANGING YOUR LIFE ~
Excerpted
from: Change Your Life Right Now!
Iris Fanning
I
have found my clients are often their own biggest obstacles.
How can this be? You really want something, you really desire
it… why then do you continue to be self-defeating? Let's
look at the top 7 reasons why people stay in their own way.
1.
Fear of Failure
2. Not knowing what you REALLY want
3. Living someone else's dream
4. Need for approval
5. Lack of self love
6. Shaky personal foundation
7. Habit
OBSTACLE
ONE: FEAR OF FAILURE
The fear of failure is a common drawback. Somehow you've convinced
yourself that if you fail at this, it would be terrible. Let's
re-frame what you tell yourself. First, if you fail, you've
learned what you needed to learn. There is no failure in experimenting.
Second, even if you fall short of your original goal, you
are still much closer then you would have been if you didn't
take action. You may have obstacles, it may not happen in
the time frame you first thought. That doesn't mean you've
failed.
Finally,
write this down and memorize this. You don't get good at something
you fear without doing the thing you fear!!! Read it again.
Now again. Did you memorize it? Here it is again, "I
won't get good at whatever it is I fear without doing the
thing I fear." Now stop, reread and memorize this.
Something
new; something you really want always has an edge of fear/excitement.
I had a wonderful acting teacher that taught us to rename
this fear. Instead of fear, she explained this was really
performance energy. It's that energy, juice, passionÉyes a
bit of fear, which keeps us on high octane with new ideas
and actions. Thank your fear for being present.
See
if your change is too big a risk (puts you in danger financially,
emotionally or physically). If it does, stop, it's a poor
choice. It is better for you not to make destructive choices.
If your fear is in your imagination… the "what ifs",
the "I'll never do it" then re-frame and move forward.
Iris
Fanning ©
2007
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